What Are You Thinking When You're Talking To a Guy?

I've had a mini-revelation lately that I think might help some of you too, so I'm going to share it.

I was thinking about how we relate to guys and how we are supposed to treat them as brothers in Christ. That's always confused me a little. I'm definitely not going to treat them as close as I treat my brothers, so how exactly do you treat a brother in Christ!?!? I do not have the answer. BUT! I have an idea. Or rather a question and then an answer.

Q: What are you thinking when you are talking to a guy?

A: You should be thinking about how to glorify God the most in your conversation.

Now, let me try to clarify my jumbled thoughts just a bit.

I've realized that most of the time when I'm talking to a guy I worry about what he thinks of me. I want him to think I'm intelligent, kind, funny and all around great, right?

For example: I have a bad habit of replaying conversations I have with people over and over again (not just guys, but everybody) and thinking about what made me look kinda goofy and immature, and wishing I could take it back. The root of this is pride. I am more worried with what people think of me than what God thinks of me. Harsh, but true.

Do I ever replay conversations and think, "I wonder if what I said was as pleasing to God as it possibly could've been"? NO! But, that is my goal from now on.

I want my motive behind every conversation I have to be: I want to please and bring glory to God in the fullest way possible. And not: I want to make me look really good.

I hope that this helped you gain a fresh perspective on pleasing God with your words.

The mouth of the just bringeth forth wisdom, but the froward tongue shall be cut out. Prov. 10:31

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Pure Hearts

Today's post is about..............................BOYS!

Now you're interested, aren't you?

Actually, today I'll be writing about keeping our hearts and

minds pure in our relationships with guys.

I have three main thoughts on how to keep your focus off

of idle daydreams about boys and on the Lord.

1) First of all, we should be making the most of our single years by serving God and our families (1 Corinthians 7:34). If we keep our focus on the Lord and serving others, we will be far too busy and content to sit around daydreaming. So, how do we do this? Start with reading God's Word and praying daily (if you're already doing this, good for you!). It's a lot harder to get distracted or tempted by worldly things when you are constantly seeking God. Next, apply yourself to serving your family. Help your mom out in the house more, encourage your dad as the head of the household and ask him if you can do anything for him, spend time with your siblings doing what they want to do. These things can all be difficult at first, but will grow easier with time and practice.

2) Secondly, we need to give our hearts to our fathers. We need to tell him that he has our heart and then prove it by: telling him our thoughts and dreams, sharing whatever is on our minds, asking him to pray for us in whatever area we are struggling in, telling him that you trust him and that he's the most important man in your life right now.

3) Lastly, pray for the young men in your life, and their future wives. Pray that they would become mighty men of God and do wonderful things for the Lord. And of course, pray for YOUR future husband!

One thing that always hits me pretty hard is that only one man will be my husband, and every other man is going to be someone else's husband. That means that every time I talk to a young man, I am talking to someone else's future husband. Am I thinking about those young men like I want other girls to be thinking about my husband? If that doesn't help you guard your thoughts, words, and actions concerning young men, I don't know what will.

I have thoroughly convicted myself now.

I've got work to do, but thank the Lord, He will help me every step of the way.

"Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."

Philippians 4:8